Dec 9, 2013

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Power Quote for December 2013

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December’s Powerful Quote

This powerful quote is one that I used in December of 2012 (last year). But after hearing a number of students tell me recently how worried they were about performing because of what their “friends” will say, I decided it was time to bring it back! With so many performances happening this month, it’s a good one to repeat!

How to Deal with Criticism

Here’s one thing I’m pretty sure of:

I’m pretty sure that every person who is afraid of doing something is afraid because someone told them they were “bad at it” or said that they “messed up” the one time they tried.

Face it. When you do anything that requires “putting yourself out there” – you’ll have to deal with criticism. In fact, if you’re not getting criticized, you’re not doing anything worthwhile! But, how do you handle it?

Well, I wish I could be with you the moment it happens because I’ve “been-there-done-that” and have the t-shirt! Instead, I’m sending a virtual hug and 5 practices that have worked for me.

  1. Make a decision. Decide right now that you will no longer live your life being afraid of what others might say or think about you. Start with that one decision.
  2. Give yourself a little time and space to feel your way through it. Criticism can hurt and it often does. If you need to get mad or cry, then talk to a friend who will listen. Do yourself a favor, however, and set a limit. Give yourself one evening of being upset (or better, just 5-mintues!) then, choose to move on. Otherwise, it’s easy to let it eat away at you indefinitely.
  3. It’s not about you. Criticism is never about you. It’s always about the person doing the criticizing. That might not help when you’re hurting. But it’s nice to be reminded! “Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember – the only taste of success some people get is to take a bite out of you.” – Zig Ziglar
  4. Protect yourself. If you know certain people whose favorite pastime is trashing others, keep your distance. If a friend comes to you dying to tell you what “so-and-so” said about you (that is bad) tell them you don’t need to know. Filter out unfair criticism. Stay focused on your goals, your accomplishments and on the good stuff that is happening in your life!
  5. Decide again. In the face of criticism, the only option is to decide again. Decide to keep shining and living life fully engaged. Twenty years from now, it’s not what the “kids” at school said about you that you will remember… You will remember the things you achieved and what it took to get you there.

“Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” Marianne Williamson

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